Exasperation
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Exasperation: Narcissists “s favorite weapon:
Narcissists frequently weaponize exasperation (pushing buttons) against their target. I think everyone has experienced this, but, probably on low dosage.
Why do they do it?
It is all about control as well sadistic satisfaction. Now that is called narcissistic supply. It is one of their addictions. It gives them a sense of power and ego.
How do they find the button to push?
First of all, I need to emphasize , they don’t do this consciously. They are like robots. There is no real person inside of them. They are automatic.
They do it bBy trial and error. They keep breaking the targets’ boundaries. When the target shows reaction to this , this will be the starting trigger point.
They start cultivating this trigger point . This is called Intermittent Reinforcement. When you feel the exasperation is finished, another round of attack starts. They keep repeating this until the target is programmed to see the narcissists as element of shock
In another word, he triggers a trauma response. That is called the “Fight, Flight, Freez, Fawn “ response.
Most people have occasional experience with this. They experience narcissists as
walking on eggshells.
Biological Impact of Exasperation
Like I said earlier the target is put in “Fight, Flight, Freez, Fawn “ response.
AT This point “Amygdala Gland” takes over. “Amygdala Gland” Also, known as the fear boss.
God( or Mother nature ) gave this gift to us thousands of years ago. This was to us to protect us from being eaten alive. Once in a while we faced a tiger . “Amygdala Gland” kicked in automatically and managed the body to protect us.
Certainly “Amygdala” wasn’t designed to be activated 5 times a day for years . as my case was.
When activated the first thing it will do is to cut off blood from prefrontal lobe
As a result, many executive functions that are performed by the prefrontal lobe seize their operation.Some of the functions listed below:
Focusing one’s attention
Predicting the consequences of one’s actions; anticipating events in the environment
Impulse control; managing emotional reactions
Planning for the future
Coordinating and adjusting complex behaviors
The picture above shows both sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems.
The exasperation effectively activates the sympathetic nervous system and body organs correspond to the situation. The link below is short explanation of the sympathetic nervous system.
Cluster B and Exasperation
Most people deal with people with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) from time to time . They experience stress, but their body has enough time to recover from stress induced by the narcissists .
But “Cluster B” is a different issue . They must have a reaction all the times or face a very low narcissistic supply. This is usually shown itself as narcissistic rage .
In this case , they start stalking their victim until they get the proper supplies.
I have been walking on eggshells Since May 2019. Depending on how my stalker feels , he acts out .
This is how my nervous system looks now.
Exasperation and Triangulation
“Cluster B” amplifies the magnitude of the exasperation and naturally attacks on the victims nervous system through triangulation. One person at a time, he gets close to the victims' friends and triangulates them. I have detailed , my experience
In the essay My Emotional and Psychological Threesome with 47 People.
It is important to note , in our state, triangulation is considered stalking.
12 Step Programs and the introject called “being too sensitive”
Many people in 12 step meetings have this concept called “being too sensitive”. The problem is that this concept has been so misunderstood.
As this case shows, a victim of a crime could be gaslighted as too sensitive. And the perpetrator continues his behavior.
There is huge difference between saying I am “too sensitive” and you are “too sensitive”. First one is the sign of recovery , the second one is the sign of psychopathy.
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